Re: Autoeroticism (weird stuff)

On Sunday, July 30, 2017 at 1:02:29 PM UTC-4, Kill Me wrote:
> Saw this older topic and thought I'd add to it!=20
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> Besides, it's a little relief from all the drug adds!=20
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> Autoeroticism, or autoerotic asphyxiation, is one seriously deadly kink! =
"Autoerotic" refers to doing this alone and unsupervised. Wrapping somethin=
g tight around your neck for a sexual high requires a lot of discipline for=
 timing, which all too often goes wrong, leading to death by strangulation.=
 But, are the people, and it's mostly guys who engage in this activity, rea=
lly suicidal, or is it just a very serious death wish? There's a difference=
! If he was suicidal, he doesn't do it so his ligature or whatever will loo=
sen up at the right second. He's doing it to deliberately end his life. The=
 "sexual high" is merely making his death more enjoyable. However, while th=
e idea that one time, he can die from what he's engaging in, is instilled i=
n his head, the guy with the death wish isn't doing it to deliberately kill=
 himself. Death is just an inconvenient side effect. If it happens, it happ=
ens. His death, when it does happen, will be an honest accident. The risk o=
f death is extremely high because he's always doing it alone and unsupervis=
ed. If he goes to the extreme by hanging himself, he will slip a noose arou=
nd his neck and throw the other end of the rope over a beam or rod, then he=
 will draw himself up so the noose tightens, but not so tight that blood an=
d air flow to his head is completely cut off. Unlike the suicide too, he wi=
ll put some kind of padding between the noose and his skin to prevent rope =
burns and bruising. He then strokes himself until he can feel himself about=
 to "release", at which point he will draw himself up until his feet leave =
the floor. This is when the noose tightens completely and strangles him. Th=
en, as he begins to lose consciousness, he releases the rope and he will dr=
op back onto the floor. He might pass out momentarily, but, if the noose is=
 constructed and tightened so it will be loose once he lets go, he will com=
e to fairly quickly. The risk is where the rope or cord becomes tangled and=
 doesn't release when he lets go of the end. He passes out, his body relaxe=
s, and the noose tightens more and strangles him to death. While his death =
by hanging looks like suicide, it really isn't. It's an accidental death. T=
oo, was he clothed? Nudity usually equals an accident.=20
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> Then there's "erotic asphyxiation", where a willing partner is present. I=
s this always "safe"? A lot of guys maintain that being strangled by their =
partner during sex enhances the experience. Straight guys will even claim t=
heir opposite sex partner has her experience enhanced when she slips her ha=
nds around his neck and strangles him. Him being strangled by her heightens=
 his orgasm, causing him to ejaculate harder! And according to him, as she =
tightens her grip on his neck, the rush of strangling him has the same affe=
ct, her orgasm is over the top! Then the issue arises as to trust and timin=
g. Can he trust her not to strangle him until she kills him? Then again, wo=
uld really be that big of a deal if she did strangle him to death? Will she=
 be paying attention when he's on the verge of losing consciousness? Will t=
he rush be so strong for her that she "accidentally" strangles him to death=
? Would a class in CPR be a wise undertaking? What if they both get off on =
the extreme, where she has him stand on a stool with a noose around his nec=
k, and his hands tied behind his back? She gets to take his organ into her =
mouth and engage in oral sex. At the first taste of his semen, she pushes a=
way the stool and hangs him. How long will she allow him to hang? Until he'=
s on the edge of passing out? After he loses consciousness? Or, might she l=
ose control and leave him hanged until he's dead? That has happened, and it=
 happened near where I live in 2008. A couple inti hanging took turns hangi=
ng each other. The signal was the partner passing out. One night, after she=
 was hanged, she hanged her husband. But, something overcame her. When he p=
assed out, she left him hanged until he died, which, at her trial, she said=
 took 30-minutes! He was dead, and she got one year house arrest with the f=
irst 6-months being banned from accessing the internet! If that is the only=
 penalty, what woman wouldn't cease the opportunity to hang her husband by =
his neck until he was dead?=20
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> Many Gay guys claim that, while anal penetration is very enjoyable (and i=
t is!), having their partner wrap a ligature (usually a silk scarf or leath=
er belt) around their neck and pulling it as tight as possible makes penetr=
ation more enjoyable, in that, entry can be deep with a single entry thrust=
. True! Very true! All the partner has to do is press the tip of his penis =
against his partner's opening, then, lean forward and wrap the scarf as tig=
ht as possible around his partner's neck. As the partner strangles, he can =
push his organ in as deep as he can into his partner's behind with that sin=
gle hard thrust. (Lubrication is a must though!) This presents a trust issu=
e where the partner being strangled is at the mercy of his partner strangli=
ng him. Again, the pleasure outweighs the risk of accidentally being strang=
led to death! Sometimes too, one partner will reach a point where he can on=
ly enjoy being penetrated by being strangled! This is particularly true if =
the guy is very submissive, and he has a partner who is quite dominant! Usu=
ally too, in a relationship like that, the submissive partner won't hesitat=
e to let his dominant partner hang him and have his partner engage in oral =
sex with him, even after he passes out. Remember that timing issue? It's ve=
ry critical here!=20
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> Autoeroticism and eroticism are both very deadly, and too often lead to a=
ccidental death. But, is it really all that bad? Anyone into this game will=
 say it isn't.

I read your description with great interest, as I have "practiced" autoerot=
ic asphyxiation since my pre-teen years, and did get into "extreme play" wh=
en I was 16.  When I became sexually active when I was 18, asphyxiation bec=
ame an important part of any sexual activity.  Yes, I'm openly Gay, and the=
 reason I began looping a belt around my neck when I was "almost" 12-years-=
old was to relieve my sexual frustrations.  That was when I was coming to g=
rips with the fact that I was indeed Gay.  Problem was, even though, at 16 =
when I started to "relieve my sexual frustrations" by stepping off a chair =
with a noose around my neck, I never considered myself to be suicidal.  I h=
ad a death wish, yes, but I didn't feel I was suicidal.  The first boy I ev=
er engaged in sexual intercourse with (we met when I was 18, and he was 6-m=
onths older) was also into autoerotic asphyxiation too, but his "playing" m=
ade it easy for him to make two suicide attempts within a year of each othe=
r, both attempts were by hanging.  As I said, asphyxiation became a very im=
portant part of our sexual activity.  While we felt safe having a partner w=
ho watched and even participated, it wasn't without incidents.  One evening=
, about four months after we met and began having sex together, we were goi=
ng extreme where we hanged each other so our feet didn't reach the floor.  =
My boyfriend was okay after I watched as he hanged himself.  I only let him=
 hang for about 30-seconds, just long enough to let him pass out.  Somethin=
g went wrong when it was his turn to watch me hang myself.  I don't know if=
 he got distracted or what, but, he left me hanged for over 3-minutes!  Onc=
e he cut my body down and loosened off the noose, he had a difficult time t=
rying to revive me.  I was okay for the most part after, and we never reall=
y talked about why he left me for so long.  Still, we kept doing it.  Even =
though I nearly died playing asphyxiation games, it didn't discourage me fr=
om playing again.