Re: JOHN HENRY DEJONG - Admitted Abuser of Women and Bullshit Straightener

Davey Zimmerman #274 wrote:
> The original post on Facebook was deleted but some enterprising soul
> saved it off.
> 
> I know some of you don't like links but I'm supplying one to back up the
>   conversion of the text from the screen capture to text.
> 
> https://imgur.com/a/iCSmUhs
> 
> The text? Glad you asked!
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> "John Henry Now JH, you ask, why the hell would anyone CHOOSE to not
> have sex for a decade?
> 
> Well, because I'm not into paying for it for one thing. But I took
> myself out of the pool.
> 
> I took myself out of the pool because I'd come to realize that my
> relationships were following a consistent pattern of abuse, and by abuse
> I mean I was abusing my girlfriends. I never broke anyone's bones or
> anything so severe as that, but that's because I was a raging asshole
> and I knew that's where the line was that kept me out of jail.
> 
> This isn't going to be an easy read. I hope you all understand it's not
> an easy write either.
> 
> Through three, three-year relationships spanning a period of about a
> dozen years, I was an abusive son of a bitch. While it's probably not a
> coincidence that those were more or less the same dozen years I was
> strung out on coke, that's also just a bullshit excuse. The reality is
> that I was broke, fucked up, and wrong. There was a huge, huge gulf
> between the person I was in my heart, and the person I acted as in my
> day to day life. And yes, that includes the employment of corporal
> punishment with my daughter, and hooboy don't we have a social approval
> structure in place to rationalize THAT kind of abuse!
> 
> Those of you with perception may be catching on to why integrity is such
> a big thing to me.
> 
> The reality is that I was an abusive boyfriend. I was a domestic
> abuser. I was a "wife-beater." That's not who I was in my mind and
> heart. That's not who I wanted to be. But every time it ended up there.
> 
> It took a fourth failed relationship that was long-distance for me to
> start getting a clue, and ultimately it took my daughter moving away and
> refusing to speak to me for over a year before whatever it was inside me
> finally broke, and I finally got the balls to face myself and admit that
> I was an abusive son of a bitch and needed my ass kicked.
> 
> I had to get my bullshit straight, and until I did that I could not,
> absolutely could not, inflict myself on another human being.
> 
> Of course I was also a handsome son of a bitch, and a persuasive one, so
> I "got away with it."
> 
> ************
> 
> I'm glad he's straightened out his bullshit as he's gotten uglier an
> progressed to full time mooching.
> 
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