CONNECTORS

Am I the only person who has this problem? Connectors are a perennial 
pain in the butt. I want a connector to meet certain criteria, but 
on-line catalogues don't think my way, they want you to know the 
connector type before hand, and to understand how they choose to group 
them.

Currently I'm having that issue. I want a connector that occupies 
minimal board space. i need 4 pin versions and 2 pin versions. i want 
the connector to be right angle PCB mount, smd or though hole doesn't 
matter. I have plenty of PCB real estate, just not a lot of width. 
maximum width is 8mm so lots of scope for 1.27mm pitch stuff. I need the 
mating receptacle to have solderable connections, and to also fit into 
the 8mm width, although I could stretch to 10 maybe. Does anybody have 
any useful suggestions please! The connectors should be robust and not 
dislodge easily, but positive lock in that small format is probably out 
of it.

Thanks

Al