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Hi JB,
> > Your responses to these "reverse" situations may help you to
> > understand:
> >
> >"I finally married my girlfriend and it makes life so much easier."
> <snip />
>
> Understood; however, if we stick within the much narrower context of
> trying to build a specific piece of software for specific people,
> then the correlation between my ability to succeed and the team's
> ability to succeed is much higher, don't you think?
Yes.
> Assuming you agree, then perhaps my expectations aren't so
> unreasonable.
Maybe. Given that people are behaving differently than you expect,
what makes the reasonableness of your expectations important to you?
What would be different depending on whether you judged your
expectations to be reasonable?
> I will concede this point: generally the other person must *want* to
> improve or succeed in order for any of this to be effective. I
> prefer not to deal with the situation where they don't, because I
> already know that I can't do anything about that. I refuse to
> believe that only a handful of the people I have ever worked with
> want to succeed or improve.
I figure that everybody wants to succeed and improve. But they may
not want to succeed or improve at the same things *I* want to succeed
or improve at, or that I want *them* to succeed or improve at.
Of the three factors I mentioned that affect motivation (expectations
about ability, cause-and-effect beliefs, and values), values are the
ones people are least likely to change at someone else's urging.
But sometimes you can wiggle someone's values by wiggling their
cause-and-effect beliefs. Think of values as nodes in a tree (or
maybe a DAG), with the most important values near the root, and the
least important as leaves. The nodes are linked by cause-and-effect
beliefs. If Wilbur values BDUF, he values it *because* he believes it
leads to something that he values even more deeply: clean design. If
you can influence Wilbur's belief that BDUF leads to clean design, you
have influence how much he values BDUF.
One general approach is to walk up Wilbur's tree until you arrive at a
value you share -- clean design, for example. If Wilbur trusts that
you share that value, he may be more willing to explore his
cause-and-effect beliefs.
> As a post script, some of the reverse situations you mentioned are
> so wonderfully strange that I'd want to pursue them, particularly
> the one about giving up TV, car, and so on. Wouldn't that be great?!
If you try it, let me know how it goes... ;-)
Dale
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