Re: Disgruntled would-be user

In a message of Sat, 10 Apr 2004 01:51:18 +0200, Magnus Lie Hetland writes:
>Laura Creighton <[email protected]>:
>>
>Thanks! I've learned a lot too. (Among other things, I've used a very
>explicit disclaimer about future support in describing my Atox
>project, in the hope that I won't get into a situation like this
>again.)
>
>> to hell with this moron.
>
>BTW, I wonderd a bit about what position this Sheltchin person had in
>the Open Source community, and all I could find was this:
>
>  http://www.dslreports.com/forum/remark,9768868~mode=flat
>
>Basically a complaint about some changes made by his ISP. The last
>sentence was quite enlightening:
>
>  So after loosing a day of work notifying my customers that there may
>  be a problem, wasting time with them on the phone as they routed me
>  through all of the people who didn't understand, and opening other
>  email accounts with another ISP - I am reduced to writing hate mail
>  since they don't give a darn.
>
>So writing hate mail seems to be a legitimate course of action to him.
>Oh, well.
>
>> creativity is best fostered in environments where it can take the risk
>> of failing.
>
>Indeed.
>
>> being pleasurable to the peanut gallery, and being admired, is of
>> secondary importance.  
>
>I guess soo. But some of us (i.e. me) are, perhaps, a bit too hung up
>on being liked -- or at least not being strongly disliked. But this is
>all a learning experience, I suppose.
>
>> Laura
>
>-- 
>Magnus Lie Hetland  "Oppression and harassment is a small price to pay
>http://hetland.org   to live in the land of the free."  -- C. M. Burns
>
>

Magnus, I think, like the majority, you like to be liked.
But you are creative.
and creativity _is_ change.
and most people dislike change, or thrash in a 
love-hate relationship to change.

you will never get the liking you desire, because just by being alive
you change people's lives more than they are comfortable with.
and you raise expections, double damn you, because you have cool
dreams.

I have a similar problem. but i fixed mine by not actually giving a
damn about the opinions of non-creative people.  I mean, they are human
beings, and I care about them, but they might as well be small yappy
dogs for all that their opinions matter to me.

but the opinions of anybody who has created a thing, or better, tried to,
failed, and rebuilt out of the ashes of the past failure? those people
I care about, a ton.  I live my life in part with the goal of making
life easier for such people.  I badly want a world where you do not feel 
guilty for trying, where only success counts.

Laura, about to go play the flute now, to no professional standard,
but just for fun.  and why not.  why must programming be always professional
and never fun?  for me, creating programs is fun, and if your expectations
were too wide, well, then go learn patentice or Python and go code something.






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