need help with relay-ctrl-3.1.1-1

hi:

i've followed the instructions in the README but am having
problems getting relay-ctrl to work.  i've included my qmail-pop3d/run,
qmail-smtpd/run, and /etc/tcp.smtp below for reference. 

first, when i check my pop mail using my MUA (barca on w2k), i see 
that relay-ctrl has created a file under /var/spool/relay-ctrl/allow.
however, the that filename is 127.0.0.1.  the ip of the machine i
used to check the pop server (my laptop) is 192.168.0.101. is this
normal?

second, when i then try to relay mail (e.g. try sending a message to 
[email protected] using mail.mydomain.com), i always get the error 
"#5.7.1: sorry that domain isn't in my list of allowed rcpthosts" 

i'm a relative newbie to mail servers so i may be missing something
really basic, but i can't figure out what to do next.  i'd really
appreciate any pointers. 

-ron

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system: FC3, netqmail 1.05

here's my qmail-pop3d/run

#!/bin/sh
exec /usr/local/bin/softlimit -m 8000000 \
    envdir /etc/relay-ctrl \
    relay-ctrl-chdir \
    /usr/local/bin/tcpserver -v -R -H -l 0 0 110 \
    /var/qmail/bin/qmail-popup mail.mydomain.com \
    /bin/checkpassword \
    relay-ctrl-allow \
    /var/qmail/bin/qmail-pop3d Maildir 2>&1

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here's the relevant part of my qmail-smtpd.run

exec /usr/local/bin/softlimit -m 8000000 \
    envdir /etc/relay-ctrl \
    relay-ctrl-chdir \
    /usr/local/bin/tcpserver -v -p -R -l "$LOCAL" \
    -x /etc/tcp.smtp.cdb -c "$MAXSMTPD" -u "$QMAILDUID" -g "$NOFILESGID" 0 smtp \
    relay-ctrl-check \
    /var/qmail/bin/qmail-smtpd 2>&1

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here's my tcp.smtp

127.:allow,RELAYCLIENT=""