Re: Internal resistance

Hi Dale,

I like your positive approach -- perhaps this is only a better
statement of what I was alluding to in earlier emails.  Focus on the
intent beneath what you are avoiding -- I went the other direction of
finding a way to accomplish your underlying intent without doing what
you don't like. 

I don't talk with myself much about 'marketing'  because that is too
broad a term -- it conjures up such a huge range of options -- many of
which I don't like to do -- that I get stuck.

It strikes me that one cause of my own resistance is approaching
something at too high a level -- telling myself that I must do
"marketing" instead of picking up the phone and calling up friends to
see if they know someone that could use what I do, or calling a
prospect just to check in.  Granted, when I'm doing strategy level
considering, I'll think through elements of a marketing plan that
include a variety of actions that I either like to do or can find
someone else that likes to do them.  

The same thing applies with the term "Build my business" -- that's a
pretty broad term that implies a couple long list of to-do's, many of
which are pretty dusty and carefully placed in the back of my anxiety
closet where they belong.  

Reflecting on it, I sometimes get myself stuck in resistance by not
bringing things to an actionable level.  So the resistance might just
mean that I'm not specific enough.  Another good question for me to
ask myself when I'm feeling stuck.

Dale Emery wrote:
>   When I notice that I'm acting it out, I recognize it as an old 
> friend.  Then I find a way to create some small success for myself.
> 
> As you can imagine, creating a success, even a small one, is far 
> more effective than "avoiding failure" as a way to help me 
> believe in my ability to succeed.

This is golden advice!  We have a saying "You have to give your best
stuff away for free."  I apply it in these situations and use these
situations to learn from myself what I know, how I can apply what I
know out on a new edge of application, and further develop my trade
and my self confidence (for when it is flagging).  I don't get paid
money but I get paid in huge value -- and if I'm working with friends,
they are part of the chain to helping me find others who are willing
and able to pay for the value I bring.

Plus it sends good energy around in the world.  

Amy

Amy Schwab
True North pgs, Inc.
project guidance strategies

http://www.projectcommunity.com




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