Re: Seeking feedback for a learning activity

On Friday, July 8, 2005, at 7:42:27 AM, Dale Emery wrote:

> So my questions for you:  Which of the following ideas, if any, 
> are unclear?  Which are egregiously unclear?

> a. Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

Yes ...

> b. Adjust the context so that it better supports idea
>     you are advocating.

Missing [the]?

Not clear what "adjust the context is". I'd have thought context ==
reality.

> c. Check your communication.

At the door? Don't understand just what this means. Needs two or
three more words?

> d. Acknowledge the losses.

What losses?

> e. Identify the information in the resistance.

Might have said "find" or "look for" rather than "identify".

> f. Explain your motivations and expectations about the
>     idea you are advocating.

Yes ...

> g. Attend to your needs, the other person's needs, and
>     the needs of the context.

Needs elaboration in the sequel, but pretty sure I know what it
means.

> h. Apply rewards and punishments.

I don't understand this at all.

> i. Identify what you want for yourself, what you want
>     for the other person, and what you want for the relationship.

Yes ...

> j. Identify what makes this issue so important to you.

Yes ...

> k. Invite the other person to express concerns and feelings.

Yes ...

> l. Ask yourself what would lead a competent, intelligent,
>     sincere, well-meaning person to behave that way.

Do you mean "what would lead an OTHERWISE ..." ;->

Regards,

Ron Jeffries
www.XProgramming.com
Computers are useless. They can only give you answers.  -- Picasso



 
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