Re: Having Dads makes you Happy

At 03:21 PM Friday 7/9/2010, Dave Land wrote:
>On Jul 9, 2010, at 12:49 PM, Ronn! Blankenship wrote:
>
>>At 02:02 PM Friday 7/9/2010, Dan Minette wrote:
>>
>>>-----Original Message-----
>>>From: brin-l-bounces-r0TUnz/JSrZWk0Htik3J/[email protected] [mailto:brin-l- bounces-r0TUnz/JSrZWk0Htik3J/[email protected]] On
>>>Behalf Of Jo Anne
>>>Sent: Friday, July 09, 2010 1:49 PM
>>>To: Killer Bs (David Brin et al) Discussion
>>>Subject: Having Dads makes you Happy
>>>
>>>Dave Wrote
>>>
>>> > Maybe we should retitle this thread "Having dads makes you happy"?
>>>
>>><Throat clearing noises>  I know this list is androcentric, but,
>>>come on!
>>>...and having Moms makes you (fill in the blank)?
>>
>>How about "Having dads and moms in the same house and married to
>>each other"?
>
>And if the parents are "Adam and Steve" instead of "Adam and Eve"?



If that had been what I was commenting on, presumably I would have 
changed the plural in the Subject line to singular.  ;)

I had in mind more the conditions that lead to the need for such 
neologisms as "baby daddy" or other terms to indicate a parent who is 
little if at all involved in the lives of either the child or the 
"baby mama(s)" he impregnated.

IOW, it takes a lot more than biology to be a "Dad" (which has been 
the point made by some others in this thread also.  Indeed biology is 
not always even necessary:  a couple who want a child enough to adopt 
one may be every bit as good parents as a couple who have their own 
wanted and loved biological child to whose well-being they are committed.)



>Dave
>
>Heather Has Two Mommies Maru



There was a recent (announced this year, at least) study that seems 
to show that if Heather was born to two mommies who were already in a 
committed relationship when one of them became pregnant via donor she 
is probably as well-adjusted, etc., as Tiffany who comes from an 
intact two-parent (one of each sex) family.  Of course I'm not the 
only person whose immediate conclusion was that the extra time, 
trouble, and expense involved in the conception via donor indicates 
that Heather's two mommies clearly planned for and wanted her.  So 
the best thing for the kids is clearly to have their parents in the 
same house and committed to each other (in the words of the old the 
nursery rhyme, "First comes love, then comes marriage, *then* comes a 
baby in a baby carriage.") and the kids rather than living on 
opposite ends of town or even in different cities or states and 
keeping the kids almost constantly on the run back and forth between 
them, even if they don't engage in the additional 
reportedly-all-too-common practice of each trying to influence the 
kids against the other.


. . . ronn!  :)