Mounting CDROM and configuring network card

Looking for some guidance.  Any help would be appreciated.

First experience with Darwin/OpenDarwin ( ..lots of experience with
UNIX/LINUX ).  I've successfully installed and configured to boot
OpenDarwin 7.2.1 on a Dell inspiron 3800.  If I could get direction on
the following it would be great:

1) is there are searchable location for the opendarwin mailing lists?

2) i've a prism2 wireless card that I use on my home network.  Could
someone guide me step by step in how to use ncutil to configure it
properly for
    128bit enryption, assume key is hex ->  my128bitencryptionkey12345
    assume an ssid of ->  thisIsMySsid
   alternatively, i have a 10/100 pcmcia network card as well as the
docking station for the 3800.  I'd prefer to get the wireless working,
but will take whatever working configuration I can get.  I will also
settle for a non-encrypted working configuration if I have to.

3) This may make 2 a moot point, as it may make 2 a simple process( i.e.
if i have networking working and have a graphical interface, making
system configuration changes may be straightforward????).  I've
downloaded the X binaries and burned them to cd.  Could someone guide me
in determing what /dev/* device is associated with my cdrom and how to
mount it from the command line.  It does not appear to be being
automounted:
 ls -l /Volumes               yields two entries 
 Untitled -> /
 Untitled 1

4) Ultimately, i would like to end up with a system that is as 'OS/X'
like as possible -- what window manager/applications would be a good
starting point for this?

thanks,

Reid