Re: What Sort Of Men Are Deviant?

Neosapienis wrote:
> This is my last excerpt from the book "Understanding Sex" after which I'm
> going to post more nudist related topics.

That's probably just as well.  The topic is worth pursuing, but you
should switch to a more recent and much more authorative source.

> It is perhaps unfortunate that the popular image of the man with a special
> sexual liking is always so bad.  He is either a creepy little fellow in a
> dirty raincoat or a crazed psychopath unable to control his desire to
> mutilate or kill his sex partners.  But research has shown that these images
> are far from the truth, althogugh it also shows that such men are different
> in some ways from others.

Is it always bad to be 'different'?

> They are liely to be shy and reserved, to have been obedient when young,
> to be worriers - especially about relationships with others.  They may feel
> lonely, be dissatisfied with their sex lives and have tendency to
> depression.  But when they do develop good relationships with women they are
> likely to be eager to make them happy.  However, when it comes to sex
> itslef, they are usually far more submissive than the average man.  This may
> appeal to women who have fantasies of being adored, but to those who like a
> more dominant man.  But, even so, this picture is rather different from the
> popular idea tof the sadistic unbalanced 'pervert'.

Yes, if accurate, quite different.

> 1) Treating deviants
>
> There are of course sexual variations which are unacceptable.

Yeah, those which cause tangible to harm others.

> The
> compulsive exhibitionist (or the "Flasher") and the Peeping Tom are usually
> harmless - they are actually scared of real sex, but they can be offensive
> and frightening.

If harmless, what's the big deal?

> The person who desires sex with children (a paedophile) ...

Poor definition of the term.

> ... can be in an extremely serious state ...

Can be, isn't always.

> ... as is someone who mutiltates his sex
> partner before (or after) sex ...

Yeah, that's bad.  But it shouldn't be in the same sentence as the
capsule (mis)definition of 'pedophile.'

> ... or who lusts after animals, corpses or other
> inappropriate objects.

Lusting after and acting in such a way as to bring harm are rather
different.  Think Jimmy Carter and "lust in his heart"!

Who decides what's 'inappropriate'?  What about knot holes?

> These people have problems which possibly only a
> psychiatrist can tackle.  However, nowadys many sex problems can be treated
> by simple therapy.  Modern methods are not always successful, but the
> chances of success are particularly good if the deviant person can establish
> a reasonably happy conventional sex life after her deviation has ceased to
> be attractive.

That's an example of the mealy-mouthed statements I spoke of
elsewhere.

:-)

Jenny