Re: Discovering people's internal responses

Dale Emery <[email protected]>
Newsgroups gmane.culture.business.resistance-as-a-resource
Message-ID <[email protected]>
Hi Wayne,

 > > What patterns do you see in the responses?
 >
 > I don't see many. Maybe I'm resisting. One thing I notice is
 > the responses do not seem to further the interaction.  I'm
 > hesitant to say that because I don't have the context in which
 > these responses took place.

I think you're onto something.

Early in each workshop, I ask people for examples of resistance 
they're experiencing.  The question and the timing may steer 
people to think of particular examples that have given them 
particular trouble, and have left them feeling stuck.  So the 
context probably elicits examples of responses that do not 
further the interaction.

It seems to me that "not seeming to further the interaction" is 
part of what leads us to interpret a response as resistance.  If 
I saw someone's response as furthering the interaction, I don't 
think I'd call it resistance.

 > I don't know anything about the rest of the interaction. Also,
 > regarding any response resistance is an interpretation on the
 > part of the receiver of the response.

Yes.  One of the ways I uses these responses is to ask 
participants to think of multiple possible interpretations.

 > There are a few exceptions, but there are a lot of "we" and
 > "it" pronouns.  Those responses are generalized and vague. It
 > is hard to tell where the responder as an individual stands. It
 > does not appear any contact has been made between the responder
 > and the receiver in each case.

I never noticed the "we" and "it" and vagueness until someone 
pointed it out to me in a workshop a few months ago.  Now that 
you and he have pointed it out, it's hard to miss.  Your 
additional insight about contact is an eye opener for me.

Thank you for these two nice insights: "Contact" and "furthering 
the interaction."

Dale

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