Emotions

Hi Chris,

 > To broaden this a bit beyond fear, I ask myself "What am I
 > feeling?" This was a core diagnostic in the counseling I went
 > through. They also limited the responses to one of the eight:
 >
 > Glad
 > Sad
 > Fear
 > Lonely
 > Anger
 > Hurt
 > Guilt
 > Shame
 >
 > ... the idea being that at any time how we feel can be broken
 > down into one or more of these eight - like the Periodic Table
 > of Elements for the heart. We have many adjectives to describe
 > feelings, but I've found this list never lacking. (BTW, if
 > anyone has a formal reference for this list of eight, I'd
 > appreciate it).

The Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) web site includes 
a larger list of emotions, many of which are variations of the 
ones on your list:

	http://www.cnvc.org/feelings.htm

I like that the CNVC list has lots of pleasant emotions.

The CNVC site also gives a list of needs, which may be helpful 
when we're trying to understand people's responses:

	http://www.cnvc.org/needs.htm

The book The Emotional Hostage, by Leslie Cameron Bandler and 
Michael Lebeau, describes in detail some of the dimensions that 
make up emotions--dimensions such as time frame, intensity, 
"tempo," and so on.  I'd be happy to write up a summary if anyone 
would like to explore that.

 > Whenever any interaction with my beliefs occurs, one or more of
 > the basic eight are triggered.

If we turn that around, it says that when I'm feeling one of 
those basic emotions, or perhaps any emotion, something is 
probably interacting with my beliefs.  So my emotions are 
doorways to my beliefs.  Hmmm.

I'm just now noticing that, though my model of resistance 
includes beliefs and values, it doesn't include emotions.  Yet.

Dale

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