Re: Re: Introductions

Dale,
Yes, let's explore.  The responses we see and hear from people are often (maybe always) their outside response.  These outside responses are clues to the inside response (which we cannot see or hear.)  The inside response can be filtered and distorted by defense mechanisms. What finally becomes the outside response may not even resemble the inside response.  

In my experience the real resistance is inside and it requires some effort and tools to discover it.  Before you can discover it though you first have to make contact.  Telling people they shouldn't be afraid or that they should get over the inevitable are not effective ways of making contact in my opinion.
Wayne.
  ----- Original Message ----- 
  From: Dale Emery 
  To: [email protected] 
  Sent: Thursday, May 01, 2003 3:33 PM
  Subject: Re: [resistance] Re: Introductions


  Hi Wayne,

  > Regarding resistance, I recall something you said once. I don't
  > remember where, maybe PSL or Leaders' Forum.  But it stuck with
  > me and I have quoted you (with proper credit) on several
  > occasions. You said something like, "People don't fear change
  > so much as they fear loss."

  I think that was Leader's Forum 1995, in a sesssion that was 
  essentially one of my first resistance workshops.

  Now I need to give proper credit.  I was summarizing an idea from 
  William Bridges' book /Managing Transitions/.  After briefly 
  describing three examples of "resistance," Bridges says, "It 
  isn't the /changes/ themselves that people in these cases resist. 
    It's the losses and endings that they experience and the 
  /transition/ that they are resisting."

  > If this is true, and I believe it is, one way resistance could
  > be a resource is to alert us to perceived losses.

  Yes.  So one of the things I want to explore is how people's 
  responses give information about what losses they may be 
  perceiving.  Sometimes it's easy.  "I can't do that!  My manager 
  would fire me!"  Sometimes it's more subtle.

  Dale

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