Re: Re: Introductions

Hi Ron,

 > What tools are helpful in clarifying your own fears?

For me, the trick is mostly noticing that I'm fearing something. 
  That's a challenge for me, because I'm often stuck in my head, 
or too busy attacking to notice what's happening inside me.

Once I notice that I'm fearing something, it's often a pretty 
short step to finding out what the fear is.  I simply ask, "What 
I'm I fearing here?"

Other times it's not so simple.  When I need to explore more 
deeply, I sometimes consult with myself using pen and paper.  I 
write a conversation between consultant-Dale and stuck-Dale.  I'm 
somehow able to switch between the two, and I'm usually surprised 
at what I learn.

One question that pops up a lot in my self-consultation is some 
form of "... and what would happen then?"

Finally, a journal helps.  I haven't journaled in quite some 
time, though.

I hadn't noticed this before, but each of these tools is a way to 
step outside of myself temporarily.  And yet, each helps me to 
see what's happening inside me.  Hmmm.

I also notice that most of these are after-the-fact techniques. 
I can sometimes catch myself in the middle of an interaction. 
Not often, though, and I have no idea how I do it when I do it.

I'd love to hear from some more people about this.

Dale

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