Re: go girl

Salaam,
I dont get your point here Afdhere..
Obviously Joyce felt no connection with these men - and someone who talks 
only of his own opinions for hours, is not going to be an attractive 
marriage partner.
Why so keen for Joyce to reconsider?
There are plenty of other muslim men out there, probably many more who are 
suited to Joyce.
I say you did the right thing Joyce.  And dont worry about deciding too 
quickly because when its the right person you will *know*.  And time will 
then cease to matter.
My husband and I were engaged after about 1 month, and married after 5 - and 
we are blissfully happy 4 years on alhamdulillah.  But I knew with him 
immediately...

Wa'salaam
aisha


>From: "Afdhere Jama" <[email protected]>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: [email protected]
>Subject: Re: [Progressivemuslimsnetwork] go girl
>Date: Thu, 04 Mar 2004 07:35:32 -0800
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salam, joyce and inas,

may i say that not all arab men are like that :) and many guys -- arabs included -- deal with women in what they think women want. unfortunately, since feminism "came" out, it has been potrayed (by women, no less) that women do not want the 'sensitive' man. yeah, yeah, i know... some of you will say otherwise...

as for lecturing, why not lecture back. if you let a man know that you are not the 'passive' type, then he will back out. but if you keep listening for hours end, then he will think you are the woman that has been potrayed over and over and over again.

in the arab world, i know this is hard to believe, women are not passive. when it comes to the private life of the couple, the woman rules. in public, women act passive because the culture allows men to be falsely dominant. it took me a long time to realize that that it is the reverse here (west) for most non-arab women. so bear with the brothers :)

also, if you gave up on the brothers on couple interractions, what makes you think that you would be better than -- say -- those who expect you to agree to marriage far too soon for your liking? or is it better to let go earlier than to accept earlier, assuming folks "think" they know what is on each account? it is not that i have a problem with you letting go the brothers, if that is truly what you feel is best in your heart. but i wouldn't have a problem with any couple who proposed on the first date, either, if that is what they feel is best.

i'm just saying reconsider :)

afdhere

Afdhere Jama
Editorial Director
HURIYAH Publications
S A N F R A N C I S C O
[email protected]
http://www.huriyahmag.com

>From: "inas younis" >Reply-To: [email protected] >To: [email protected] >Subject: Re: [Progressivemuslimsnetwork] go girl >Date: Thu, 04 Mar 2004 08:27:46 -0600 >

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