Re: Google and the South African Internet

On Wed, Dec 16, 2015 at 2:05 PM, Andre Coetzee <[email protected]> wrote:

> Paul Furber: No, I am not going to litigate or do anything against you
> for your libel, at this time.
>

If anyone is wondering what the hell just happened on this list, it's a
perfect illustration of a sociopath using DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse
Victim and Offender. The original paper by Dr Jennifer Freyd from the
University of Oregon is here:
http://dynamic.uoregon.edu/jjf/articles/freyd97r.pdf and is an incredible
piece of research and insight. Relevant quotes:

“DARVO refers to a reaction that perpetrators of wrong doing, particularly
sexual offenders, may display in response to being held accountable for
their behavior. The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack
the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and
Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the
true victim into an alleged offender. This occurs, for instance, when an
actually guilty perpetrator assumes the role of “falsely accused” and
attacks the accuser’s credibility or even blames the accuser of being the
perpetrator of a false accusation.

It is important to distinguish types of denial, for an innocent person will
probably deny a false accusation. Thus denial is not evidence of guilt.
However, I propose that a certain kind of indignant self-righteousness, and
overly stated denial, may in fact relate to guilt.

I hypothesize that if an accusation is true, and the accused person is
abusive, the denial is more indignant, self-righteous and manipulative, as
compared with denial in other cases. Similarly, I have observed that actual
abusers threaten, bully and make a nightmare for anyone who holds them
accountable or asks them to change their abusive behavior. This attack,
intended to chill and terrify, typically includes threats of lawsuits,
overt and covert attacks, on the whistle-blower’s credibility and so on.

The attack will often take the form of focusing on ridiculing the person
who attempts to hold the offender accountable. The attack will also likely
focus on ad hominem instead of intellectual/evidential issues. Finally, I
propose that the offender rapidly creates the impression that the abuser is
the wronged one, while the victim or concerned observer is the offender.
Figure and ground are completely reversed. The more the offender is held
accountable, the more wronged the offender claims to be.”

I leave it as an exercise to the reader just how many boxes were ticked
here.

-- 
Paul Furber
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