Re: Is this anti-homophobia tactic sound?

I think it is great.  But then, I can't speak as a gay man either.  No, 
really, I can't... I swear!  C'mon guys, really, I can't....

;-)

BTW, isn't there an English expression, "Bob's your Uncle," and if so, 
mightn't this be a coded message?

mbz


On Thursday, December 6, 2001, at 10:29  AM, Kendall Clark wrote:

> Folks,
>
> Since we have a good mixture of people on this list, I want to ask for
> some advice. In response to the recent nasty message, I wrote this
> message, but then decided not to send it because I wasn't sure it was
> politically sound. Bijan suggested I raise the issue here...
>
> First, the message:
>
>>>>>> "jack" == Jack McKinney <jack3743-XfrvlLN1Pqtfpb/[email protected]> writes:
>
>   jack> I think this guy is a BFing rump-ranger that is trying to
>   jack> sound like he's straight.  Closet queers seem to be
>   jack> everywhere.  Uncle Bob
>
> Hmm, well, while it's strange to start coming to terms with your own
> sexuality on a public mailing list full of strangers, "Uncle Bob",
> we're certainly not going to like you any less if you are gay or, as
> you seem to prefer it, one of the "closeted queers" who "seem to be
> everywhere".
>
> As for you interest in men who you take to be "BFing rump-ranger[s]",
> well, that's kind of private too, and we don't really do personal ads
> or anything, but I'm sure if you will seek counseling or psychiatric
> help during this painful transition, from the extreme homophobia you
> display above to a more healthy self-understanding, you can end up
> finding a sexually satisfying relationship with just such a man, if
> that's what you want.
>
> 				 ###
>
> Now what concerns me is that, while I mean this response sincerely, it
> may cheapen or inappropriately problematize the real struggle gay men
> sometimes go through in accepting their sexuality. Josh Baugher just
> pointed to an APA study[1] that seems to show conclusive evidence for 
> the
> Freudian idea that extreme homophobia is a repression mechanism for
> dealing with homosexual desire.
>
> So I'm wondering about this tactic... Should I as a straight man use
> it or not? Should anyone use it? Does it "feel" weird or inappropriate
> to others?
>
> Best,
> Kendall Clark
>
> Footnotes:
> [1]  http://www.apa.org/releases/homophob.html
>
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