Re: [UG-ADMINS] Dealing with a member issue

Thanks Joel, another great point of view. (Sorry Beth, I'm taking in all
the advice too). I would really love to hear your follow ups on what you
are doing in the situation so definitely keep in touch. Maybe it can help
me in a way too.

On Wed, Jan 20, 2016 at 5:32 PM, Joel Clermont <[email protected]> wrote:

> One thought on how to approach it: It’s not really the subject matter that
> is the point of contention. It’s his persistence, his attitude and his lack
> of respect for how other people are reacting to his conversation. For
> example, if he was cornering people and wanting to give Star Wars spoilers,
> or talk about how Ruby is so much better than PHP, etc, people would likely
> be having the same response.
>
> Taking the subject matter off the table may help to diffuse the situation
> and help him to see you are not attacking his faith or his beliefs, but
> trying to make him aware of how other people feel uncomfortable with his
> level of intensity in conversing with them.
>
> Definitely a touchy situation, but it sounds like you are approaching it
> with a level head and empathy. Kudos to that.
>
> Joel Clermont
> 414-852-6221
>
> > On Jan 20, 2016, at 2:31 PM, Beth Tucker Long <[email protected]>
> wrote:
> >
> > We have a member who just started coming to our conference and user
> group meetings. At the conference, he consistently cornered people to talk
> to them about Jesus. He has started doing it at the meetings too. We have
> asked him to stop and explained that this is not an appropriate venue for
> these discussions and that the discussions need to stay PHP-focused. He has
> replied that he cannot stop talking about Jesus, and that if we want him to
> stop, we'll have to kick him out of the group. We responded with a firm
> response clarifying that our group is not the appropriate venue for his
> preaching and that discussions must stay on topic. We did not say he was
> banned from the group. He has not taken the hint and has now tried
> contacting the group leadership through the conference website (he
> apparently doesn't realize that we are the same people) asking for a
> face-to-face meeting to discuss these issues.
> >
> > Has anyone dealt with anything like this in their group? We do not want
> this to get ugly as we are a small group and this person has not caused
> issues in the past, so this is a new thing that started recently (in
> November). Any advice?
> > Thanks,
> > Beth
> >
> >
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