Re: Don't Be Nice, Be Real
Chris Morris <[email protected]>
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Wayne Strider wrote: >Brad, >Empathy is a feeling not a behavior. As a result of feeling empathy any number of behaviors might follow. > >In my experience automatic/unconscious behaviors (competent or not) do not work very well when dealing with human beings. > >What does seem to work (for me) is to first be in touch with me--my feelings (including empathy), thoughts, wants, needs, hopes, my internal resources. > >With my awareness of me I desire to choose a behavior consciously that fits for me, respects the other person's thoughts, feelings, wants, and so on, and makes sense given the context within which I meet the other person. > >Of course I am not always able to be that congruent. I keep trying. > > To try and rephrase Brad's question: If I don't feel any empathy, but then come to a place where I say to myself, "Self, you're a selfish guy. How come you never have empathy for others' situations?" ... what can I do to change so that in future situations, the empathy could come more naturally? Chris ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor ---------------------~--> Get A Free Psychic Reading! Your Online Answer To Life's Important Questions. http://us.click.yahoo.com/Lj3uPC/Me7FAA/ySSFAA/X1EolB/TM ---------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/