Re: Weight of Words
Brad Appleton <[email protected]>
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On Fri, Jun 27, 2003 at 07:53:26AM -0500, Chris Morris wrote: > The only negative to the rule is that I now notice second-person > abusive-form everywhere I go and it drives me nuts. (I was watching a > sports show the other day and listened to an Olympic gold winner > describe his particularly rare accomplishment (that escapes me now) all > in second person. "You see all those people there cheering you on as you > race to the finish..." or somesuch.) The example above seems significantly less objectionable to me than the earlier example you gave of "you should respect ...". The "you should respect ..." comes across to me as preachy, prescriptive, judging, and possibly even controlling. The statement mentioned above from the Olympic athlete sounds to me like the person was trying to relate rather than control, and to do so in a way that lets me be in his shoes in an attempt to connect my "insides" with his "insides" as he experienced a transforming moment that he seemed to want to share with me. I think he was using the second-person in a non-abusive manner. (Is this like the difference between "projection" and "transference"?) -- Brad Appleton <[email protected]> www.bradapp.net Software CM Patterns (www.scmpatterns.com) Effective Teamwork, Practical Integration "And miles to go before I sleep." -- Robert Frost ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor ---------------------~--> Get A Free Psychic Reading! Your Online Answer To Life's Important Questions. http://us.click.yahoo.com/Lj3uPC/Me7FAA/ySSFAA/X1EolB/TM ---------------------------------------------------------------------~-> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [email protected] Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/