Re: Weight of Words

> The example above seems significantly less objectionable to me than the
earlier example you gave of "you should respect ...". The "you should
respect ..." comes across to me as preachy, prescriptive, judging, and
possibly even controlling.
>
> The statement mentioned above from the Olympic athlete sounds to me like
the person was trying to relate rather than control, and to do so in a way
that lets me be in his shoes in an attempt to connect my "insides" with his
"insides" as he experienced a transforming moment that he seemed to want to
share with me. I think he was using the second-person in a non-abusive
manner. (Is this like the difference between "projection" and
"transference"?)

(back from vacation...)

That's a good point. The Olympian example doesn't seem to have nearly the
potential to offend -- but depending on where the statements go and the
listeners involved, there is still some potential for offense.

As far as the projection/transference question, I'm not schooled enough with
these terms to give an opinion :)

Chris


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