Re: Internal resistance

Hello Amy,

you wrote a very interesting post.

Amy Schwab wrote:
> I note that much of the conversation so far is about discovering the
> 'why' of internal resistance.  For me, this search for why is a nice
> self-reinforcing pattern that allows me to continue to resist doing
> what I'm not doing only with a noble reason -- I'm in search of
> understanding why I don't do it.
> 
> Perhaps because I'm quite skilled at finding yet another branch of
> inquiry into my not doing, I've tried to quit taking this 'why' route.
>  Because it mostly leaves me in the same place as I started -- still
> not doing what I'm not doing.
 >
> A strategy that works better for me is to acknowledge my own
> resistance -- and take that information as just that, information. 
> Given that information, I look at what I want to happen, and what
> other avenues are open to me so that I act towards my real objective
> rather than continue to avoid the avenue I'm avoiding.

It's true. Sometimes finding out the "why" distracts somewhat and of 
course you still don't do what you want/should do.
But for me it's sometimes very hard to find alternatives that I don't 
resist. Finding out why I dislike something gives me a better position 
to find alternatives. If I know better why I resist, I know better what 
to avoid and then I also know better what alternatives are possible.

And sometimes finding out why I dislike doing something leads to the 
understanding that I really don't need to dislike doing it. Sometimes 
the reason why I dislike something is no longer valid. So I can 
gradually educate myself to not dislike the situation at hand.

Greetings,
    Malte



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