Re: Transforming Occasions

Hi Laurent,

 > As I recall it, I was complaining about a conflict in a
 > professional context.  I was rather free with details of the
 > situation, what I had heard the other person say, what I'd said
 > in response, how I felt about all that, etc. At one point
 > people started asking questions that forced me to confront *my*
 > contributions to the conflict, as logically prior to the other
 > person's contributions.
 >
 > There was something about the questions you specifically, Dale,
 > were asking at that time. I can't quite put my finger on it;
 > your recent blog entry "Sincerity" had a good description of
 > the kind of question I'm *not* thinking about. The ones I have
 > in mind are questions that were already mostly implicit in the
 > speaker's original statement.

I'm recalling this only vaguely.

Since my "Sincerity" story, I've been thinking a lot about the 
questions I ask.  I've also been reading The Flawless Consulting 
Fieldbook by Peter Block and colleagues, which has half a dozen 
thought-provoking chapters about questions.

Given that, here's my guess: The questions we were asking you 
validated your experience even as they invited you to explore 
your experience more fully.  From your "mostly implicit" comment, 
I'm imagining that we asked a number of questions about the 
presuppositions in the things you were telling us.

Is that something like what you meant?

Dale

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