Re: Loss, Lack, Lemons and Limits

> The loss issue is one I've been thinking about for a while, but it just
> occurred to me that there are other important reasons for resistance.

(I'm jumping in the middle here, so I'm bound to share an opinion that'll be
ill informed...)

> Lack is one reason. In other words "I want to say yes to you, but first I
> must have X. I don't yet have X." This is not about loss, because X may be
> something that the resister has never had before, and so is not afraid to
> lose. Example: I would love to move to Alaska, but I lack a way to make a
> living up there.  (I would also lose the happiness of my wife, but that's
> a different issue.)

To me, this is still about loss - it's fearing a future loss, losing the
ability to provide for myself.

> Then there are lemons (maybe there's a better word for this that also
> starts with L. Liability?). A lemon is someone you don't want, that you
> will get if you take the requested action. Alaska is cold. Maybe cold is a
> lemon I don't want to deal with.

Again, I think loss can explain this - losing comfort by moving to a cold
climate.

> By "limits" I mean the kind of resistance where the resister is willing to
> take the requested action, just more slowly than the change promoter would
> like. The rate of change is limited. This may have to do with a learning
> curve, or safety. I may be willing to move to Alaska in stages, beginning
> with a vacation there.

Still, isn't fear of loss driving this limiting? I fear going 100%, because
I may lose something by betting too much - but I'm willing to try 50% for
now and see how that goes.

> I bet there are more reasons I'm not thinking of, yet. I hope they start
> with L's.

With this sort of thing I (obviously) like to try to boil it down rather
than flesh it out (probably because I have a lousy memory, even with
alliteration :). But, now that I've spewed out my comments, I'm curious -
how does breaking out these various forms of resistance help you? (genuine
question) I can see how too much boiling down can be too coarse.

Chris
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