Re: Loss, Lack, Lemons and Limits

Loss of "comfort" - I like that. Maybe a fourth 'C' to go with connection,competency,control (or does it fall under one of those).

Reading the rest of the post, I can't help but think of Maslow's Hierarchy of needs, and which level in the hierarchy a particular loss 'speaks to'. [A quick google-search turns up http://www.connect.net/georgen/maslow.htm among others]

My guess (which admittedly isn't earth shattering) is that the lower down in the pyramid the loss 'strikes' the greater and more fundamental (survival-based) will be the resistance.


On Tue, May 06, 2003 at 07:23:57AM -0500, Chris Morris wrote:
> > The loss issue is one I've been thinking about for a while, but it just
> > occurred to me that there are other important reasons for resistance.
> 
> (I'm jumping in the middle here, so I'm bound to share an opinion that'll be
> ill informed...)
> 
> > Lack is one reason. In other words "I want to say yes to you, but first I
> > must have X. I don't yet have X." This is not about loss, because X may be
> > something that the resister has never had before, and so is not afraid to
> > lose. Example: I would love to move to Alaska, but I lack a way to make a
> > living up there.  (I would also lose the happiness of my wife, but that's
> > a different issue.)
> 
> To me, this is still about loss - it's fearing a future loss, losing the
> ability to provide for myself.
> 
> > Then there are lemons (maybe there's a better word for this that also
> > starts with L. Liability?). A lemon is someone you don't want, that you
> > will get if you take the requested action. Alaska is cold. Maybe cold is a
> > lemon I don't want to deal with.
> 
> Again, I think loss can explain this - losing comfort by moving to a cold
> climate.
> 
> > By "limits" I mean the kind of resistance where the resister is willing to
> > take the requested action, just more slowly than the change promoter would
> > like. The rate of change is limited. This may have to do with a learning
> > curve, or safety. I may be willing to move to Alaska in stages, beginning
> > with a vacation there.
> 
> Still, isn't fear of loss driving this limiting? I fear going 100%, because
> I may lose something by betting too much - but I'm willing to try 50% for
> now and see how that goes.
> 
> > I bet there are more reasons I'm not thinking of, yet. I hope they start
> > with L's.
> 
> With this sort of thing I (obviously) like to try to boil it down rather
> than flesh it out (probably because I have a lousy memory, even with
> alliteration :). But, now that I've spewed out my comments, I'm curious -
> how does breaking out these various forms of resistance help you? (genuine
> question) I can see how too much boiling down can be too coarse.
> 
> Chris
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